Marriage isn't simply cohabitation; it's a journey of mutual growth, says Nadia Afgan.

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Marriage isn't simply cohabitation; it's a journey of mutual growth, says Nadia Afgan.

The host set the stage by highlighting the intricate nature of Nadia Afgan's character, Shamim, in the renowned drama series Kabuli Pulao. "Sometimes Shamim enrages us, sometimes we feel for her," noted the host, capturing the dichotomy that kept viewers captivated.

Afgan began by acknowledging that this interview marked her first in two years since the success of the dramas Parizaad and Suno Chanda. She revealed that her presence had been constant on television screens for the past three to four months, with multiple projects airing simultaneously.

While admitting she wasn't an avid drama viewer herself, Afgan shared that messages of appreciation for her character Shahana in Suno Chanda flooded her inbox. Recalling a fan from India confessing that the drama was previously unknown to them but had now captivated their entire family, Afgan reflected on the universal appeal of her artistry.

The conversation took an intriguing turn as she reflected on how Kashif, a well-known director, initially approached her with the promise of an exciting role. Although the first character offered wasn't Shamim but her older sister, it was the script by esteemed writer Zafar Miraj, the Lahore backdrop, and Kashif's involvement that enticed Afgan. Two days later, Kashif called again, offering her the role of Shamim.

“Shamim is someone who is capable of love, betrayal, and a genuine desire to see others happy, which I feel is the embodiment of true love,” said Afgan. Kashif's storytelling prowess and discussions about the character with the cast played a crucial role in unraveling the complexities of Shamim and her relationships.

Nadia shared her initial reservations about working with Ehtisham, but it was Kashif who facilitated in-depth discussions, allowing them to delve deeper into Shamim's character. Shamim's love triangle with Haji and Ilyas intrigued the audience, stirring a mix of emotions. Afgan recounted receiving messages from women who empathized with the character's struggles, having faced similar dilemmas when well-intentioned mothers set the stage for their relationships.

The theme of couples' chemistry and their ability to accommodate each other's moods and idiosyncrasies was a recurring motif, underscoring the emotional intricacies explored in the drama. A particular quote resonated with Nadia: "It’s a beautiful experience to feel loved by someone who, in the grand scheme of things, has no obligation to love you."

Nadia's skillful portrayal of Shamim also earned praise from industry peers like Sarmad and Sania, who used superlatives like "stupendous" to describe her performance. Nadia expressed pride, emphasizing her connection with the character over considerations of cast, director, or fees. She stated, “When you become the character, it’s not about competition; it’s about doing justice to the role.”

The conversation shifted to the topic of age differences in marriages. Nadia firmly asserted that, when respect and love existed between partners, age became inconsequential. Despite her husband being twelve years her junior, Nadia experienced a sense of maturity that transcended mere numbers. She credited destiny for their union.

Living together 24/7, Nadia discussed the differences in daily routines, such as her being a day person while her husband was a night owl. However, the foundation of friendship made all the difference. They met through a project and engaged in social welfare activities together. Her husband's honest admission of his feelings sparked their journey toward marriage. She quoted him, saying, “Marriage is not just about living together; it’s about growing together.”

A crucial aspect of their relationship was the mutual decision not to interfere in each other's families, allowing each partner to maintain their connections. Despite religious in-laws accepting their marriage despite the age gap, Nadia expressed frustration at societal double standards, emphasizing individuals' freedom to make choices about their lives.

The conversation delved into the sensitive topic of not having children, bringing profound depth to the discussion. Nadia revealed the emotional toll of two miscarriages, describing the pain as both physical and societal. She candidly shared her journey with in vitro fertilization (IVF), a mentally and physically grueling process. Her decision to share her story was motivated by the countless women who reached out after she went public, sharing stories of resilience and hope.

Tayyaba Dua

Tayyaba Dua